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Sunday, 6 December 2015

DO BABIES REALLY LOOK MORE LIKE THEIR DADS?

Black father holding baby daughter under blue sky

I have often wondered if babies, especially male babies looks more like their dads than their moms. I was at a public health facility some days ago, and noticed that women were more quick to say their babies looked like their fathers when asked who the babies look like. However, I cant say if this was due to the fathers in question being present. But I have come to realize that more often than not, both mom and dad prefer their babies to look like dad, especially the infant male child. When asked, more people were of the opinion that babies genetically look more like their dads so that dad can be certain that the baby is theirs. In turn, dad will be inclined to protect and provide for the baby.

I keep pondering if this is true or mere theory. It could be true, considering that men had many wives before the concept of monogamy and wedding band, hence, they probably needed a little reassurance in terms of the kids looking like them, and had to spot a resemblance in their babies before they completely accept that they are their fathers. So maybe kids decided to look more like dad in order not to be dis-owned. Lol... In addition, studies show that men are generally more drawn to babies who look like them.

In this part of the world however, not only does dad like when babies look like them, but mom is usually the first to insist that baby looks like dad, as seen in my experience at the Clinic. This is a bit disturbing as it poses a threat to the woman's security in her marriage being that it carries loud undertones of distrust among couples. Since baby is supposed to look like mom and dad or one of the two, does it really matter if it isn't dad? I have even heard stories where Fathers demanded paternity tests claiming that the baby does not look like them. Hence, the reason why more often than not, moms do their best to convince dads that baby looks like him even if it isn't true.

Personally, I think this is unfair, since mom did most of the work for 9 months. It would be fair if baby got most of his traits from her, but then again the male ego has to be soothed as Fathers have a strong vested interest in ensuring that a child is theirs. In fact, studies have shown that men often look at their children differently than women, often searching for evidence of a familial match. There is absolutely no doubt as to who the mother of a child is, but men have to constantly, search for physical traits in their children in order to be gratified.

What do you think?

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